Maybe thats what really got me thinking. Declining to go really shouldnt require an explanation, but if he really needs one just say its a combination of the expense, that youve seen them more often than your own parents, and that you simply have other things you want to do this weekend. Maybe Im wrong, but the fact that he needs to be there every weekend (although what is significant amounts of time?) Also, make plans with friends. Yea I totally agreethis is a very short timeline. If the moms just dropping by it cant be *that* far away. Well, then you are simply NOT a match. They never left the apartment unless they had to for school more or less, and they always came straight home. OR maybe he makes more money than she does and doesnt realize the strain on her finances. No one I know can read minds, I have no idea why LW thinks her boyfriend can. My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 6 months, after dating for a year. Its sad cause I know for a fact this is a losing battle. When you get home, youre probably tootired from work, finish the basic chores around the house, and then fall asleep halfway through a movie on the couch. This is something about him that will likely never change. when we went to move in together we just said ok, what price range are you looking for. Im also close to my family, however, I never make my boyfriend feel left out and I always make him feel that he is the priority. When you talk to your boyfriend about your concerns be careful that it is not perceived as an ultimatum, just that you would like to discuss other options of things to do on the weekend. The timeline seems off here. a lot of people just arent that way. You know what will happen when you make him choose between spending every single weekend in the suburbs with his parents or three weekends a month in the city with you? When there is no holiday, they decide to have a BBQ in the backyard, and of course, they invite too many people to that event. If this has only been going on 3-6 weeks or so she might be just starting to feel the pinch, so it hasnt really come up before this. . There is also a possibility that his parents create this feeling of guilt. There is so, so much you can do with your boyfriend LW! If your hubby is young and just recently married he may also be feeling insecure and needing his bros to lean on. The only way that this would be acceptable is if his wife is fine with this arrangement and she enjoys having quiet time to herself. You want to spend the weekend together, and he has to visit each of them. However, my husband isnt like that at all. I think you are already there, and having a great relationship *except for this one huge thing I want to change about that person* isnt the same as simply have a great relationship. But if its just sit on the couch at our place or theirsthats no big to me? If you cant deal for the long haul, then dont. ele4phant Maybe the new place would start to feel more like home. Yes. realizing that we dont have to spend every minute together and that its ok if we wants to visit his parents for a weekend while I stay home and go out with the girls. Over holidays if DW got this letter when I think she did. Yes. Keep in mind that anything that upsets this balance is going to seem drastic. On another level, your husband wants to strike out on his own, by himself, on a grand adventure. My guess is this is the first real issue thats cropped up since they started dating and shes been stricken with communication paralysis. Our compromise (when we lived closer, now we live about 6 hours away) was that we would see my family for dinner once a month and that I could go over other times but that he preferred to stay home. Five Steps for Maintaining an Open Relationship, When Do You Know Its Time to Break Up With Someone?, My Daughter is Trying to Ruin My Relationship. I think Ill sit this one out. Simple. In a family dynamic where an adult person is tethered very closely to the authority figures in particular, this does have a psychological effect on the adult child or children. She is communicating to us, that even though she is coming up short on the finance side, if her live in boyfriend eased off the time with the family visiting, she wouuld be ok. ForeverYoung I thought the same thing. There are so many preserved places that are paid for with tax dollars so you might as well use them. If money is tight, you dont even have to plan expensive excursions. If he wants to visit his parents for dinner once or twice a week, his wife should be accompanying him. The compromise that LW needs to make is to give up just going into the city on random, unplanned activities and make a plan for every weekend. I could sort of see this also playing into the bf still seeing his parents as his nuclear family, thus the #1 priority for his free time. Not only is it a long commute to my boyfriends familys place, but its also starting to get expensive paying for the commuter train both ways (we split expenses pretty evenly even though I make significantly less). All I will say is that I could not be with this man. Shes not being selfish or mean, shes simply asking for him to place more importance on her & their relationship. Then you need a different boyfriend. GatorGirl But I think what struck me is how little they seemed to have discuss things social preferences, money, etc. Lets see what to do with all our weekends, vacation and generally free time what to do with all our money oh, the abortion, should I get knocked up by the way, would you want or not want to know if I was cheating on you.. Oh, what else.. who is going to do the dishes, and who is taking out the garbage.. Am I forgetting anything? To me that is a bit thorough and ridiculous. If hes not receptive, as others have said, I think you have your answer on how to proceed. i think the dysfunction wouldnt come from just the time spent, like the literal hours, i think the dysfunction would come from the things surrounding the time spent- the guilt, ect. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending his weekends with you. No, spending 1 or 2 weekends with the parents or your boyfriends isnt that many, but it is, if you dont get to see your boyfriend at all in between these times. We just got thru the holidays. Francine Which I agree is a lot, but if hes trying to balance gf and family time and is only home for 2 days.thats a lot. I think I need more info. And it really annoys you when they play the victim role, and on the phone, they are sad when you tell them that you wont visit them this weekend. This is for your husband to do, but you have to let him know. That sounds like two out of three, and maybe that was because of the holidays. When family is in town, we spend almost every waking minute visiting. Pay careful attention to his reaction. She thought he would change, and he hasnt. January 20, 2012, 11:41 am. I do care for his parents and they are nice people but at the same time I want a separate life with just me and my boyfriend. . says that maybe he needs to transition from one house to the next, seeing as its only been three weeks. They live together 7 days a week, so I dont see whats the big deal if he spends only 2 of those days with them (unless he never gives his gf a single weekend). But she doesnt seem to mind it. everyone just has a different approach to their relationship. Maybe he feels that since he sees the gf all week now, he should spend weekends with his family. lets_be_honest Maybe explain to him that you would like to keep some variety in how you spend your free time with each other. Because when you are confronted with a situation head on, and theres pressure to resolve it right this second, the reaction is usually different then if you had a chance to talk it through and come to a mutually satisfying solution. June 18, 2014, 10:17 am. Its a bit immature for a grown man to spend the weekend with his family while his wife is home alone, and maybe the children too. June 18, 2014, 12:45 pm. lets_be_honest However, its also a convenient excuse for Melissa Melms, who lives with her fianc in Hoboken, New Jersey, says making time for herself amps up her happiness, which in turn benefits the relationship. You dont need to spend every weekend or every day with your boyfriend. He lived 4.5 hours away. No, not necessarily. It certainly wasnt for me or any of my friends when they took the next step. Im not saying its come to that yet, but Im suggesting the LW force her bf to choose if he wont honor her wish to stay home once in a while. During football season we spend Saturdays and Sundays, all day, watching football with the same people. muchachaenlaventana Thats what next times are for! When we decided it was serious, he introduced me to his mom one weekend, and I introduced him to my parents the next. Plan a trip to visit your family. November 29, 2019, 5:49 pm, Angelique They were dating, they were both happy, so I think they both assumed that thinks will be the same once they move in together. Doing that every week seriously compromises a relationship with a partner who is not ok with that set-up. GatorGirl New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. While you want to spend quality time together, rest, and go to the cinema or a restaurant, he needs to be surrounded by people. I know many families like this. He told you hedoesnt want to spend Christmas with your family. What way would you not want it to be? allathian By the time Starting over! lets_be_honest I Hate My New Job After 2 Days Is it Horrible To Quit? (Which she did and he didnt do anything about it.) January 20, 2012, 9:28 am. Your boyfriend is spending every weekend at his parents house because you are enabling that to happen. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending his weekends with you. If you spent every weekend together in the city before you lived together, it would seem that thats something he enjoys doing. What I am saying that the best time to discuss your spending habits is not when the bill is already on the table, or you dont discuss birth control when you are both naked and about to have sex. Im in the same boat. Addie Pray January 20, 2012, 7:40 pm. I was saying you would know/discuss important things because you are in a relationship, without a business meeting atmosphere. Cue unintelligble grumbling. For the LWs boyfriend, perhaps hes someone who enjoys being homebound, and after only three weeks, the new place doesnt feel like home yet. January 20, 2012, 10:50 am. And for the love of god, dont enforce some kind of we spend every weekend together no matter what, because its not compromising on your part and plus when you live together that sh*t gets old QUICK. Those are two crucial things that need to be in place if youre going to spend your life with this man. The little things like who is taking the garbage out? In many cultures that is the norm. Its not weird to them. I agree that it is dysfunctional. Yet another letter from a LW who has the perfect boyfriend EXCEPT for one small, oh, you know, majorly epic, MASSIVE tiny thing she wants changed. June 18, 2014, 11:03 am. Will you LWs simply never learn? Things are generally going well, but the one thing that I cant get past is how much time we spend with his family. June 18, 2014, 10:47 am. If mom is like, begging them to stay every single time, thats beyond just a mere annoyance obviously. But, guilting someone is wrong and there is a little of that going on here. Anonymousse So, say a family gets together every week for Sunday Dinner- you think thats dysfunctional? December 6, 2022, 12:17 pm. Now that they are obviously not, it is definitely time for some conversation. maybe im misunderstanding you. Its really hard taking care of yourself after a divorce, if you dont have a good career or come from a wealthy family. Its possible he was living at home and spending weekends with her, so he was seeing his family all week. I imagine the problem would be solved pretty easily. Play frisbee in the park! I wouldnt enjoy seeing my in-laws, let alone my own family, every weekend. But since shes there all the time, he might feel like hes catching up with his family. Yeah, but every weekend? Youve already talked to your boyfriend about your feelings and he doesnt think hes doing anything weird. The thing is, whether or not his behavior is weird is irrelevant. Is it because the LWs own lease was up? I dont necessarily want to be the bearer of cynicism and negativity here, butI think what youre experiencing now is one of the reasons I ALWAYS advise people to move in with someone after youve been dating a significant amount of time (at least a year, in my book). Its hard not knowing when a passing will Posted on Last updated: December 26, 2022. What I dont agree with, personally, is doing it interrogation style. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting him to spend more time with her. And you are right, regardless of anything, if she has a problem with it, he should be able to find a compromise that makes everyone happy. However, I think the What about visiting your parents? January 20, 2012, 9:36 am. To me it would be so weird if I came home and was a short drive from my parents, but just sat around my own house vs going there and socializing and seeing my family. Dysfunctional that he wants to spend time (a lot, Ill give you that) with his family? Does that make sense? That was seven years ago. Some peoples parents are just like that. Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. LW has already talked to bf and this hasnt worked. In my experience, though, it seldom works. He knows this because its important to me so I talk about it. Make plans for activities. Im torn. muchachaenlaventana If hes home for only Friday and Saturday night and has to leave Sunday afternoon, you can bet we are at their house both Friday and Saturday for a long time, and then they always show up an hour before hes to leave on Sunday. If your husband does not agree to any compromise, there is probably another reason why he always wants to spend his vacation with his parents. SpaceySteph If the relatives of only one spouse are prioritized, the other spouse will be dissatisfied. . You are asking how you can change him and his feelings on this and get him to grow up. Or pick berries. Candance Owens told Tucker Carlson on Tuesday the final battle with the left is the war against sanity during an interview about President Biden's age and Sen. John Fetterman's mental issues. January 20, 2012, 10:03 am. Like he was programmed that way. lets_be_honest Growing up, we went over to our grandparents almost every Sunday. I miss just being able to head out into the city at random, looking for things to do, which is what I did when I was single and even when my boyfriend and I werent living together. January 20, 2012, 9:44 am, So this is what you need to do LW. and it sounds like she hasnt even tried to discuss this current issue with him. You are certainly not happy when unannounced visitors visit you, and you have a lot of work to do. Just set a boundary that you wont spend more than so-and-so-many hours there and get ready to leave when you want to. GatorGirl I guess I just dont get why this is dysfunctional exactly. Your bf dated you before so you know he is capable of doing it again. And actually what I am promoting is having a casual conversation about things that are important to you to find out where both of you stand. This LW specifically has a problem during the summer/fall months (so 6 months tops, depending where she lives) when he gets to come home *only some weekends* so not every single weekend, and he spends a majority of his time with his family and the LW. are they spending every minute of their entire weekend with his family? WebSince weve been married and as bf/gf When I ask to spend a weekend or day with my family he says he's too tired. Id never visit my parents alone while he was in town, but sometimes wed go there for coffee and a meal. , And BGM made the point also that except for what seems like an obvious dealbreaker to most people, they have a wonderful, amazing, great relationship. I cant imagine that life! January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. 1. Its super weird that hed rather bunk at mom and dads than yours. I see people post or check in or what ever and I have no idea what it means. I know when my husband and I finally started living together, we would see both our parents every weekend along with going to the laundry mat and grocery shopping. As was said before, while you are dating you should be attempting to find out as much info as possible. I really would like to know if this LW is asking to actually do something with her boyfriend and hes flat out refusing. By the same token, I DO need to get out as well; just staying in every weekend gets old pretty fast. ReginaRey Tests are incredibly unfair to your partner, because they deserve a chance to hear what you really want and you deserve a chance to hear what they want. So, personally, I dont find it weird and I wouldnt frame it that way to your boyfriend, LW. I get that its a little different in Europe but I kept picturing my host brother when I read about the LWs boyfriend. Not because hes wrong, or youre wrong, but because your lifestyles just dont fit together well. His family is about a 3 hour drive away from us while mine I mean if youre moving in together youre obviously adults, and it shouldnt be an awkward conversation. January 20, 2012, 8:23 am. TaraMonster tbrucemom Occasionally, this is fine with me and I understand Im not the only person Perhaps if something was planned, hed break his routine, and realize that it is fun sometimes to stay in the city. Do you ever say hey, I dont want to go, so Im going to stay home this time around, or do you keep your mouth shut with a smile firmly planted on it, rictus and all? Do you both work very long hours or something that he cant muster up enthusiasm to do fun things with you? January 20, 2012, 12:44 pm. In fact toward the end, when I was tired of the distance and really pushing for us to have a normal weekend together, he started accusing me of trying to take him away from his family (nvm the fact that in the four years prior to our relationship when he was away at college, he would come home and visit his family once a semester but then he started dating me and coming home every other weekend). He was this way through their entire dating, engagement, and now marriage. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com. One thing is for sure, he comes home to you at the end of the weekend, even more tired than he left. If you want things to change, you need to be the catalyst for change. I mean, I worked so hard to play for this place, might as well enjoy it on occasion. See, thats whats weird, I have never been told im a direct person. Go to a zoo! GatorGirl She cant change him, so if she doesnt like it, she should probably find someone who wants more couple time. YES! Because the simple fact that you are moving in together means things will not just continue as they are. And the rest of my family in US get together almost every weekend as well. silver_dragon_girl January 20, 2012, 10:52 am. I think that, though you try to play it off as not a big deal, you are a little jealous/sad that your boyfriends parents live close and yours live far away. I agree with you AND Flake, RR.at the same time, if their biggest issue is spending too much time with his parents on the weekends I think theyre probably in pretty good shape. I have friends who are engaged and live together. You and your husband wanting to live in different placesis probably a usual cause of arguments in your marriage. ok, well then really were talking about the same thing. But whatever you do, LW, dont make this some kind of Choose them or me test. Sources: Ive studied psychology and dysfunctional family dynamics for years. Could that be why theyve been there so much? I stand by it. And would you make someone feel bad because they have something else to do? Ann Cannon. And after 4 months, youre likely just coming out of the Honeymoon Phase. You havent had sufficient time to learn these little things youre just starting to learn. . Its my little refuge, and sometimes I like coming home and just hanging out on the couch with the BF reading or watching movies. muchachaenlaventana It could be because some people purposely hide some of their not exactly good habits, or because you may never have an opportunity to see the less obvious habits. If you only have two free days per week, its rather selfish to take up one of those days every week with a visit to his parents, eliminating a lot of other possibilities. your husband wants to visit his family without you, doesnt want to spend Christmas with your family, You and your husband wanting to live in different places. Your husband does not know what to do with himself on weekends. Maybe he doesnt understand this because YOU SPEND EVERY WEEKEND WITH HIS PARENTS. Then you may just be spending too much time together. If they are as busy with their jobs as she says, I could see where they didnt see each other all week and he would spend his free time on the weekends with her. What should I do? A day at the lake or beach or some body of water? Saturday night is date night you are willing to sacrifice one date night a month to see his parents but thats it. Why does she feel obligated to visit his parents so often? As your history with him has shown, he likes spending Your husband wants you tospend every holiday with his parents, and he doesnt even ask you what you want. June 18, 2014, 11:28 am. Unless theres a legitimate reason, like a sick/dying family member, that he needs to be home all the time, escaping his life with you in the city means he doesnt value your needs and you dont share the same interests. I swear, learning how to deal with my aunt (whos a little over the top with this) was a huge victory. They live in a suburb of New York, where we live, and weve somehow gotten into a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. So its not like every.single.weekend. He usually wants to go to his parents house every single weekend he gets to come home. All rights reserved. Thats precisely how you might feel because you dont want your husband to not see his family at all, but does he have to every weekend? hops the bus and goes straight home. But, I also wouldnt feel bad saying its been a long week I really want to binge watch Netflix and catch up on laundry today. GatorGirl I dont think the parents issue is as big of a deal as the not-communicating-about-money-very-well thing. Its a worldwide treasure hunt. As a PP said, some extended families are close and spend a whole lot of time together, and girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, get pulled right into the family circle. I come from a pretty tight knit family, and yea, when i was a kid i remember everyone coming over to mom and dads for Sunday lunch. And unless he has something planned, he stays in reading/watching TV/listening to music until bed at midnight. You go along with him to his familys house. I mean they obviously leave and get their nights together so its not like they are having sleepovers etc. June 18, 2014, 12:55 pm. Sometimes Bassanio feels kind of bad when his parents do this, but I just point out that they dont mean that hes the worst son if he doesnt do something and that its ok to say no. Or maybe its the first major difference in opinion in a long line of future differences. but you have to talk to him about it. The LW just needs to talk it over with the boyfriend and agree with what works for both of them. Hey, were in 100% agreement today, as opposed to 80%. to a point, but there are some things that there is no way around not having a conversation around. By not wanting to rock the boat people are just blindly having faith in relationships. If one or a few things are particularly very important to you, then those will most likely be discussed just because. I got to see my parents occasionally after work even when he was away. She simply says I cant seem to get my boyfriend to understand that I dont want to spend weekend nights at their place more often than maybe once a month and she neglects to follow it up with what his response was or his objections were when she told him how she felt. Tell him that while you love his parents, you miss going into the city on weekends and having weekend time alone with him in the city too. LW is definitely being reasonable in not wanting to spend every weekend with her boyfriends family. But I have too much shit to do at work today so Ill spare everyone my tangent. That was my first thought. Visiting families and spending time with siblings takes up much time in a marriage. Instead of alienating him, encourage him.You should be overjoyed that your boyfriend has a social life and isn't attached to you like a leech. What are the main reasons why he behaves like that: A guilty conscience makes your husband go to his family every weekend. From unexpected work obligations on the weekend to sudden business travel demands, one partners professional goals and ambitions can impose stress on a You cant expect your husband to not want to see his family, and you shouldnt. Next time, instead of going on trips together, try eating out or going for a picnic. All Im saying is be careful. You dont want to talk about important issues with a SO so that you can pretend moving in together is a great idea because you dont know any better because you have SPECIFICALLY chosen not to know about better? January 20, 2012, 11:43 am. On the weekends he spends at LW, how about writing back with the details? ele4phant If he still caves, or prefers spending time with parents rather than exploring the city with LW, then at least LW will have determined exactly where she stands and be able to make the appropriate decision about whether or not to stay with bf. 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